How can you gain the respect of teammates without being bossy?
Many girls that I talk to are unsure how to gain respect as a leader on their team. Girls crave the approval of their teammates. Many are afraid to step into power and afraid to put themselves out there for the better of the team.
In society, women who are strong-willed are often thought of as bossy. It has this negative connotation and it doesn't have to be that way.
I have some tips that will help your teammates respect you as a leader, a person, and a soccer player.
#1: Lead by example
Actions speak louder than words. Be the hardest working player on the team and be consistent in what you do and how you do it.
#2: Be willing to listen
What makes a great leader? I ask this question and the first thing I hear is "communication." Communication is a two-way street. You have to be willing to listen to your teammates. Lean in and help your teammates with an open mind.
#3: Get to know your teammates on a deep level
The more you know your teammates as people, the better you can lead them and communicate with them. Learn to handle each situation and person as an individual. Each teammate is going to respond differently, so learn the best way to talk to each person on your team.
#4: Fight for your team
Your team is your family. Go out there and put every single thing on the line every single day. Fight tooth and nail to make your team better. The harder you play and the harder you fight, the better you make your team. Stand up for your family.
Remember as a leader, there will never be a time that everyone likes you, but you can still have their respect. Put in the work, listen to your teammates, fight for them, and get to know them. You will feel more confident as a leader and as a player in general.
If you need more support and want more help on how to be a good leader, this is one of the topics that we cover in our monthly confidence coaching calls. We also bring guest speakers that are leaders in their industry. Join us to connect to like-minded players who will cheer you on and have your back.