The Consequences of Negative Friends

friends influences positive Sep 09, 2020

Today, I'm going to talk about something that is really important for confidence, especially for teenagers. Take a minute to think about how much of an impact friends can make in your life. 

You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.

What does that mean in your life? Are you spending time with negative people with fixed mindsets or are you hanging around people who have big goals who strive to be the best person they can be?

Sometimes your friends can be like crabs. If you put a bunch of crabs into a bucket, one of the crabs is going to try to escape from the bucket because they don't want to be trapped, right? As soon as one crab gets close, the other crabs are going to try to tear it down because they don't want that other crab to be successful when they're miserable.

This scenario happens to people ALL the time. Don't be like a crab and don't spend time with people who will tear you down. 

How do you know if you are hanging around the right people?

Find friends that have positive daily habits. Find friends that speak highly of others, not those who gossip and talk behind other people's backs. Surround yourself with friends who respect your values and respect you. 

Next, I am going to give you a little challenge.

1. Make a list of all your friends

2. Of that list, figure out the friends that have a negative influence on your life

3. Find the friends that have a positive influence on your life 

4. Plan out the conversations you will have with the negative influences 

There are many ways to go about having these conversations. You can completely cut them out of your life, or you can have an honest conversation with them to see what you can do to improve the friendship in a positive way. This is not an easy task, but it will greatly improve your daily interactions!

It's time for you to act on your life!  


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