Today will be all about what to do after you get benched.
Now, I'm talking about getting benched because you made a mistake, or your coach is mad at you, or you are not working hard. When I was playing, I never knew what to do in those situations.
Usually, when you get benched, all you think about is the negative, right? You come off the field huffing and puffing and MAD! This is not engaging and will not help you in any way. You are not thinking about what you can do better in this moment.
BUT... I want to give you some tips that will help you in this scenario.
The first thing I want you to do is: Ask your coach for feedback.
This is especially important if you don't know what you did wrong. If you want to get back on the field and be better, make it known to your coach that you want to fix whatever it is that you did wrong. Something you could say is, "What can I do next time I get back on the field to do better?"
The second tip is: Focus on your breathing.
Today's blog is short and sweet, but very important!
The only thing that's holding you back is YOU.
It's not your injuries. It's not your mom. It's not your dad. It's not your circumstances. It's not your coach. It's you and your mindset. Our fear of failure and inability to be consistent gets in the way.
What do you need to do to get out of your own way?
You need to continuously evolve and be aware of what you're doing to stop yourself from achieving your dreams and living to your full potential.
This is a wake up call that we all need. Realize that nothing, absolutely nothing, is going to stop you from achieving your dreams, except for YOU.
My challenge for you this week is first, write down what you want to achieve in life. Short term, long term, anything you aspire to do. Next, write down all the things that are stopping you from achieving those dreams. What is it going to take to get there?
My guess is, it's going to take you getting out of your own...
The question we are going to focus on today is:
Why do we always focus on negativity?
Let's try to practice focusing on the positive and having a more positive mindset. Why do we always think the worst? As humans, our brains are naturally wired to focus on the negative. WHY?? Because it's easier. It is especially easy to focus on the negativity in today's world, because of all the stuff that is happening right now.
But, we have control over one thing: OUR MINDSET.
Let's learn how to change our negative mindset into a positive one.
#1: Don't watch the news
Getting constant news updates is not helpful for our mindset. Picking up our phone for every notification can contribute to anxiety and and automatically thinking in a negative mindset.
#2: Express gratitude
I think sometimes we forget how lucky we are and how blessed we are for the things that we have. Be grateful for the little things. I would like you to take some time each day and write down three...
Who likes making mistakes?
When you're constantly afraid of making mistakes and overthinking your mistakes, it's like you're trapped in your own body and mind. You can't let go and be free.
From the age of 13, I was TERRIFIED of making mistakes. I fell out of love with the game, and was so close to quitting. I wasn't able to let loose and play free. My worrying was trapping me mentally.
I know many of you have that same problem. You think to yourself, "What if I make a mistake? What if my coach yells at me? What if I let my teammates down?" This automatically puts yourself in a box to where you won't allow yourself to play free.
It's really hard to play at your full potential when you are thinking this. You need to be okay with making mistakes.
How can you stop overthinking your mistakes?
#1: Before a game or practice, set an intention
Set an intention that you will let loose and play and know you will make mistakes and that's okay. Tell yourself that...
How can you gain the respect of teammates without being bossy?
Many girls that I talk to are unsure how to gain respect as a leader on their team. Girls crave the approval of their teammates. Many are afraid to step into power and afraid to put themselves out there for the better of the team.
In society, women who are strong-willed are often thought of as bossy. It has this negative connotation and it doesn't have to be that way.
I have some tips that will help your teammates respect you as a leader, a person, and a soccer player.
#1: Lead by example
Actions speak louder than words. Be the hardest working player on the team and be consistent in what you do and how you do it.
#2: Be willing to listen
What makes a great leader? I ask this question and the first thing I hear is "communication." Communication is a two-way street. You have to be willing to listen to your teammates. Lean in and help your teammates with an open mind.
#3: Get to know your teammates on...
Today, I'm going to talk about something that is really important for confidence, especially for teenagers. Take a minute to think about how much of an impact friends can make in your life.
You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.
What does that mean in your life? Are you spending time with negative people with fixed mindsets or are you hanging around people who have big goals who strive to be the best person they can be?
Sometimes your friends can be like crabs. If you put a bunch of crabs into a bucket, one of the crabs is going to try to escape from the bucket because they don't want to be trapped, right? As soon as one crab gets close, the other crabs are going to try to tear it down because they don't want that other crab to be successful when they're miserable.
This scenario happens to people ALL the time. Don't be like a crab and don't spend time with people who will tear you down.
How do you know if you are hanging around the...
You might have noticed that we have re-branded the show from Alpha Girl Soccer podcasts to the Alpha Girl Confidence podcast.
Since I started online confidence calls, I knew that this was my true purpose and calling in life. To help girls in any sport, not just soccer.
Let's dive into today's blog!
If you're human like the rest of us, you probably struggle with striving for perfection too often. I love this quote by Winston Churchill-
"Perfection is the enemy of progress."
I always see girls striving for perfection in their sport and school. Striving for perfection is unachievable and often leads to disappointment. So instead of this, I want you to start striving for PROGRESS.
I am going to teach you three ways that you can strive for progress and stop striving for perfection.
#1: Celebrate your wins
We tend to focus more on the negative than the positive. When you only focus on the negative, it becomes really hard to celebrate any accomplishments and progress...
Today, I have a super important topic to dive into that's a lot different than my previous blog posts.
For most of you, social media is a big part of your life. It can do a lot of good for people, but I've also seen it cause a lot of damage. Two of the biggest disadvantages of social media is comparison of others and feelings of unworthiness.
I want to teach you how to use social media to your advantage and stop letting social media use you. All of these tips are things you have complete control over.
#1: Follow people who inspire you
There are tons of amazing people on social media, people that make you want to work harder, people that want to make you a better person. Find those people and connect with them.
#2: Unfollow people that make you feel unworthy
Are you comparing yourself to people you see on social media? Are you thinking, "I'm never going to be as good as her," or "I'll never have what she has." If so, UNFOLLOW.
#3: Create and...
Welcome back to the blog! Today, I'm going to teach you how to maximize your time and be productive this fall season for school and for soccer.
I know everyone is in a different situation whether that is school in person, school online, maybe your season has gotten cancelled. I want to pass along four steps to help manage your time.
To become a better student and player, I want you to maximize each and every week.
#1: Create weekly habits and intentions
Get out a planner and write three habits you can work on. One school-related, one soccer related, and one health-related. Setting these habits keeps you on track, keeps you in line with your intentions, and keeps you in line with your goals.
#2: Get your assignments done
Procrastination takes a lot of time and energy. Make it a habit to stay on top of your assignments. Get it off your plate and then you can worry about other things.
#3: Schedule your home workouts
Get some touches on the ball....
A fear that many of us have is the fear of being judged by others. This is one of the MOST common fears of girls and teenagers.
WE ALL WANT TO BE LIKED.
This becomes a huge problem when players are so afraid of how other people perceive them. Teammates, coaches, parents.